Growing up, I missed a guide in my life to just give me ques or help me have a different perspective onto things. Sometimes, I felt stuck, unable to make a decision or feeling that I was missing out on progress in my career, personal development and generally on my life! As a twenty year old I had very little direction – The most important thing my parents wanted me to do is to study and get a diploma – And I am grateful for that… But what happens after getting a diploma? How do I start building my career and how do I become an adult?

Over these years, I encountered periodic mentors who were part of my life for a period of time and then they left or I left because we thought time was over for the two of us in the relationship we had. Some were my professors at university, some were my managers at work, and some were so challenging that I could not stand them, but all taught me lessons, and guided me through whatever I was going through. Those mentors were essential for my professional, mental, psychological and spiritual growth – and I am grateful to have met them!

The importance of a personal mentor is that they give you a different perspective of whatever you are going through. They can look at things with you differently from another angle. They can ask you challenging questions and allow you to figure out your answers while they guide you through it but they can also share their experience with you or what would they do in your shoes. A personal mentor can be powerful to help you navigate situations that you desperately need someone to listen to you, advice on your next steps or sense checking what decisions you have already made but are hesitant about.

A personal mentor can be your guide towards a more consistent and flourishing future, but you have to put in the work!

When you build the relationship with your personal mentor, career mentor or life mentor (they all are a different name for the same person), you both build up a triangle: a solid base and two arms meeting at the top. This connection cannot be made without both parties putting full effort in it. It is important to find a mentor who you feel you have a click with, not that you feel “at ease” with because then you fall back into your comfort zone but a click – someone who gets you and is curious about your perspective, someone who is open and can be vulnerable. Once you have met this person as your mentor, give it your 100% to build that triangle.

Looking for a mentor? Take your time to find one. You might search for long period and meet different people and once you have met them, you will know. Good luck