Why Do You Feel You’re Not Worth It?

How often do you do something just for you?
Take yourself out for ice cream?
Book a massage?
Sit down with a journal or a hot tea and tend to your inner world?

Self-investment is an act of self-worth.
It tells you: I matter. I’m worth caring for.

But what if you’re not there yet?

What if you feel undeserving of rest, joy, or kindness?
And deep down, you feel you’re not “enough” to receive any of it?

The excuses show up:
“I’m too busy.”
“My kids need me.”
“My relationship is demanding.”
“I’m exhausted.”
The list goes on.

But have you looked yourself in the mirror—truly looked—and asked why you’re putting yourself last?

How to rebuild self-worth and overcome inner criticism

What’s Blocking You From Seeing Your Worth?

That inner belief—that you are not enough—didn’t come from nowhere.

It may have started in childhood:
A punishing parent. Emotional neglect. Verbal abuse.
Moments that made you feel like your needs were too much, your voice too loud, your softness too weak.

Unhealed trauma creates stories we carry for decades.
Stories that whisper: You’re not worth it.
Not worth care.
or the love.
Not even your own kindness.

But none of that is true.

How Do You Start Loving Yourself Again?

Start small.
Whisper something kind to yourself in the mirror.
Say it out loud if you can.
Look into your own eyes and say:
“I’m worthy of care.”
“I’m still here. And that matters.”

Remember your resilience.
And the joy you’ve given others.
Remember the steps you’ve taken to reach where you are.

You Deserve to Be Taken Care Of—By You

You shine—just like a sunrise.
Every single morning.
Whether you see it or not.

And like the sunrise, your beauty doesn’t depend on someone else noticing it.

It’s just there.
Unfolding. Quiet. Undeniable.

How to rebuild self-worth and overcome inner criticism

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